Wife Swaps

Wife Swaps Explained

Wife Swaps used to have a pretty tarnished reputation as being somewhat of a joke among many (“take my wife…I wish someone would”). Swaps are much more common now though. However, as a sub-culture, wife swapping has existed since the mid-1950s. In those days it was done as a social, yet highly secretive mini-society of middle-class neighbors. It was essentially a way to get to know who was on your side of the fence in terms of open-mindedness and frivolity, much like a secret handshake club. It was also used as a foot in the door to promotions for those who were willing to extend their personal boundaries. If you got invited to a local party it meant they were testing you out, seeing how open you were to ‘sharing’ and it was generally the well-to-do upper middle class that responded in the affirmative.

Nowadays, wife swaps come under many other titles and sub-culture lists, such as swinging,Wife swaps can be a fun way to keep the passion in sex. although there is a major difference between the two. Wife swapping is generally done on a sort of mutual basis, whereby two sets of spouses will have a private gathering in order to exchange partners for the evening with one another specifically. However, there are other ways to swap, which include parties at a private sex club or premises, where couples simply mingle, choose temporary partners and engage in some sexy fun.

Wife Swaps Rules of Engagement

  • Be clean and highly presentable when you turn up for a party or wife swap session
  • Be polite and make sure you understand and follow the rules
  • Remember that yes is yes and no definitely means no
  • Never approach a partner without first engaging both spouses
  • If requested or expected, ask permission from the spouse before engaging in relations with their significant other
  • Always turn up with your own partner and leave with them
  • Pay attention to your own partner throughout the evening
  • Only ‘go’ with people you wish to engage with. Joining is not mandatory
  • Leave the place as you find it and clean up after yourself
  • Always wear appropriate protection

There is an etiquette involved in this type of social engagement, in much the same way as with the fetish or BDSM community. You are expected to observe proper manners and behavior in an almost chivalrous fashion. People expect to be treated with politeness, dignity and respect, above all else.

New to Wife Swaps

If you have talked about swapping as a couple and it is something you both want to try you can join clubs or find local swingers in your area at SwapFinder. There, you can narrow your search to singles, couples or groups who are looking to have a threesome. You might also find people who are having a swing party in your area.

One thing that is absolutely vital to your mutual enjoyment of wife swapping is that both spouses are equally as enthusiastic about it. If just one of you is more interested than the other it could cause issues. You both have to be equally willing to participate, so make sure you talk thoroughly about the implications before you directly engage in the practice.

Swingers and Roundabouts

Observing the rules of etiquette is the best way to understand how the swinging or wife swapping lifestyle works. There truly are some very chivalrous codes of practice and when you think about the manners that people have to exhibit it makes everyday life seem almost rude. We don’t pick people up in bars by saying ‘get your coat honey, you got lucky tonight’ and winking at them. They are more likely to follow you home if you are kind and respectful. Many people are under the illusion that swapping your spouse is thoughtless, but really speaking, those who do it are not looking to be unfaithful with permission. They are looking to keep the spice in their relationship. Sometimes, just being with their spouse is not enough and they want to experience new sides of sex play and, if both spouses are consenting, there is nothing wrong with it.

indexYou might find that it is mostly men who suggest wife swapping, which is not really surprising. Many women also enjoy the sexual passion of a new partner. With wife swapping, you may find that some men prefer to choose the partner that their wife will join with, while they have the option to choose whomever they want. Some couples prefer that, while others are more open to anything.

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